Updated: Aug 31
Everyone wants happiness. We go about it in all sorts of ways such as; playing tennis, studying art, having babies, gardening and holidays. Just about everything we do in life is an attempt at finding happiness and avoiding suffering.
The word suffering sounds very serious; however, suffering is also discontent, disappointment and basic dissatisfaction. No one likes feeling those things, so we spend our entire life trying to avoid it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be happy and there is nothing wrong with the pursuit of happiness. The problem we have is we believe that lasting happiness comes from out there. We believe the outer world is the cause of happiness.
In life we can all agree that nothing lasts. Our friendships, material possessions, finances, the environment and even our health by nature is constantly changing. The problem we have is that we see all those things as being the cause of happiness. Our dependence on impermanent things, our clinging to an outer source of lasting happiness in an impermanent world can only bring disappointment.
There is no doubt that we do experience happiness with things outside of ourselves, but it doesn’t give us lasting happiness and that doesn’t truly free us of our problems. Even when we get what want and feel happy, it is still an unreliable and short—lived happiness.
This doesn’t mean we should give up our friends and possessions in order to be happy. Rather, we should give up the misconception and unrealistic expectation that lasting happiness comes from out there.
The root cause of our problems is not the outer world, the people in it or the events that trigger us but the mistaken view of life and happiness. We all have the potential for lasting happiness, stable happiness and that lies within the mind. The mind is the source of lasting happiness.
Daniel Troyak is a Mindfulness-based Therapist.
With his support, unpack and unravel the contents of the mind.
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