Updated: Aug 31
What I can say with absolute certainty; I’ve been doing this work for many years and it has brought so much transformation. The things that once drove me crazy literally do not anymore.
Not because I’ve repressed it. I have reconfigured the way I interpret things. The way I relate to the world around me.
When you begin this process its hard work but the one who reaps the rewards is you!
It might sound surprising the approach to bring about happiness is changing your mind and the way you think. The way we become happy is to become familiar with our mind. Reconfiguring the very way we see reality and the world we live in.
Patience is a quality of the mind that is in-sync with reality and in-flow with happiness. We need to develop this quality of the mind.
What we believe to be patience is actually passive aggression. Something like; you hold on tight, grit your teeth and wait for something horrible to go away. That’s not patience, that’s just internalised frustration and negativity.
Patience is a stable mind. It is recongising I just didn’t get what I want.
It is not supressing what is happening in the moment by tensing up and waiting for it to pass so you can breathe again.
Bad things happen to us all day long. The response is usually anger and we justify it by believing it’s a natural response. We think anger is natural because we never thought there might be an alternative.
Patience means; a really powerful state of mind. When things don’t go the way we want, we don’t freak out. What we should do is to open ourselves to it, welcome it and give ourselves a bit of a pep-talk to calm down, so we don’t have a panic attack. So, when we are driving and we hit traffic, we don’t go ballistic or start to feel irritated and impatient.
There are advantages to changing your habits. Like changing the way we react to life instead of overreacting. So when patience has developed and you are in the midst of chaos you won’t lose the plot. Practice makes perfect!
It is difficult. We think it’s impossible because we have never been shown another way to live.
With practice, we become conscious that the mind is what controls the physiological. And in the midst of chaos on the highway you maintain your sanity and your clarity.
In the early stages of awareness and self-control, we often become disappointed when we slip up. That is not the attitude to develop. We can’t underestimate the bad habits on the mind-stream so practice makes perfect. Having an expectation you should be better than you are; that’s the mistake we make.
Our logical mind knows it’s possible to practice something and perfect it. But with emotional stuff we give up immediately and then we become negative, we think were ridiculous, we put ourselves down. We are our own worst enemy.
If we are learning to ride a bike it takes time and practice. When we fall off, we’re told to get back on. Practice makes perfect.
So if you are being reasonable and you know it’s theoretically possible to change, then with that confidence it should inspire you to keep trying. You need to be patient with yourself.
It is 100% possible to become familiar with your mind and reconfigure the interpretations of your life and the world you live in. Then we literally change the mind and the traffic on the highway as well.
Daniel Troyak is a Mindfulness-based Therapist.
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