Updated: Nov 20, 2021
If you know Buddhist psychology, you know the correct statement is we all suffer.
Suffering isn’t something we want to know, which is why we spend every waking moment avoiding it.
Instinctively we look out and believe my problem is out there. My partner, my job, the weather. Those are the obstacles to my happiness. That’s how we think.
There is no denying the outer world can be a sensitive and painful experience, but what we believe is our problem is merely the trigger. Triggers for emotions we’d rather not feel.
Triggers get the most attention because the felt sense experience is uncomfortable. We want to get rid of anything that doesn’t sound, smell, taste, look or feel nice. Therefore, when my partner doesn’t give me what i want, I get angry and hold that anger for a day or two.
How we think is paramount to creating happiness and alleviating suffering from our lives.
I recall a story of a Tibetan Buddhist monk who was taken prisoner and then tortured for long periods. When he escaped he was asked what he feared the most during his imprisonment. He said he feared he would hate his captors for what they were doing to him.
He understood that suffering comes from the mind. It’s how we think about the world around us. I hate you, I will never forgive you, is suffering. Even when the event is over and the physical suffering has passed, what is left is our mind. Wherever we go our thoughts go with us.
We need to know why we think the way we do and challenge the thoughts that cause us to suffer. We have the power to change and improve our wellbeing and happiness from the inside out.
The way to find liberation and freedom is to understand that I control my emotional wellbeing.
Applying the right tools is essential to gaining control of the mind and overcoming negative emotions.
The only way to overcome suffering is to know it and to know it well.
The place to begin is the mind!
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